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I do want to ask you by what A Course in Miracles means by Holy Relationship. In one the main book it discusses "entering the ark" together, and it almost sounds as though you'll need an added specific person to be able to awaken. Therefore, I think I approach each new person with the expectation that maybe THIS could possibly be the connection that reflects enlightenment in my experience, and I to them! Am I taking this too literally? Or do you actually need another to help you awaken?
I appreciate your time so much and thank you for your help in my experience and others. I thank you and I thank God for you. Namaste.
David Hoffmeister: Thanks for your openness and your willingness to check deeply at what's underneath these topics and issues. A Course in Miracles teaches that the split mind contains both the situation (the ego) and the Solution (the Holy Spirit). When they're brought together, only One remains.
The human body and the world are usually the focus of ego's perspective, for this seeks to make real problems and struggles on the planet and to prevent the inner Healing Correction of the Holy Spirit a course in miracles videos. The ego's distorted world is the item of identity confusion, an outpicturing of the belief it is possible to make an identity which God didn't create. The ego is this identity problem and it absolutely was Answered or forgiven by the Holy Spirit the instant it seemed to arise. This one problem could possibly be described being an authority problem or a confusion in who's mcdougal of Reality. Your head that believes in the fact of the time-space cosmos has a get a grip on issue, for this believes that it can create itself. This ego mind also thinks it is in competition with God, although that is pushed out of conscious awareness. This unconscious ego thought system is exposed in the A Course in Miracles Workbook lessons, and Lesson 13 contains a fantastic example of the unveiling:
"A meaningless world engenders fear because I think I'm in competition with God."
This really is the start of training the mind to forgive, for the focus is brought back to the mind, back to thinking, and removed from the body and the world. Anorexia, weight issues, body image issues, and interpersonal relationship issues are types of projection, of seeing the situation where it is not: in the world. Your head cannot tolerate the belief in a war with God, which means this belief is pushed out of awareness. The deep-seated control issue this kind of belief entails is then projected to the body and the world. Weight control, like any attempt to regulate the script or the body, is an attempt to regulate the past. The Holy Spirit teaches that days gone by can only be forgiven or released or seen as false—not fixed or controlled or changed.
The exact same ego dynamic is underneath interpersonal relationship struggles of power and control, of wanting to repair or change an individual or a self-image. Personal relationships may seem to sail happily along for awhile, yet the make-believe self-concept IS the private perspective and thus is obviously on shaky ground. Decisions are continuous. The Holy Spirit is just a decision. The ego is just a decision. Atonement is your decision that ends all decisions, an acceptance of the changelessness of Mind. The ego is your decision to think that the mind may be separate from God. Once the mind believed that it had separated and built this time-space world, this time-space world of bodies became its substitute identity, since it believed it'd thrown away the Kingdom of Heaven. The planet was made up instead identity. The sleeping mind is split on your decision of identity. The Holy Spirit says, "This world isn't Identity. This world can be an illusion." And thus the Holy Spirit reminds the mind constantly, "This world isn't your Home. This world isn't your Identity. This world isn't real." As the mind is split it is hearing another voice (the ego) that's saying: "You've done it. You've separated from God. You'd better make the very best of it and find something of the world to spot with. You can never go back for God will punish you."
Thought-form associations seem to become a substitute identity. The ego mind is apparently identified with the body, with family, with environments that appear to surround it (i.e., I'm an American, Japanese, I'm male, I'm female, I'm from a rich family, from an unhealthy family, I'm Catholic, Jewish, Protestant, etc.) All of these are thought-form associations. And these seeming other persons and places surrounding the small personal self are typical part of the construction. Your head is very shaky relating to this small identity, this small self, this little me. So the small me is shaky, and it appears as though other persons give the small me reality and importance (i.e., you're my son, my daughter, you're my boss, you're a loving father, etc.) and all different issues that these images appear to be telling this little me appear to be really important. Praise thus seems very important (i.e., you're an individual and you're a great one!).
Praise and acceptance from others SEEM to stabilize this very shaky thing (i.e., you're a great lover, you're a great provider, you're great with the children, you have an excellent intellect, you have this kind of heart, you help serve so many other people, you're a great team-player, on and on). This aspect of the self-concept says that you are an individual and you have most of these positive attributes that actually make you an invaluable and worthy person, which make you be noticeable above the crowd. You're not only anyone—you're somebody special. The flip side is criticism, which directly reflects the shaky sense of self. Criticism will be: you're never as great as you believe you're, you're not this kind of good team player, this kind of good provider, so good in bed—all the stuff which are taken as insults to the private self-concept). That's the flip side of the strokes. To the ego self-concept that believes both parties (the positive and negative) of thinking are real, the Holy Spirit is perceived as a great threat, for the Holy Spirit contributes to the knowledge of forgiveness or the realization that none of the tiny images perceived as separate have any reality.
Once the criticism seems in the future, the ego attempts a substitution. It thinks, "I don't need this. I'll go elsewhere and start other relationships with people who are able to appreciate my talents and skills and abilities, appreciate my personhood. I'll avoid those negative influences on the planet and those negative people. I'll find someone else or join a group where people are like-minded and forget about the rest of the world. These new people will like me and stroke me and praise me." The attempt at substitution is an attempt to keep up an expression of specialness, an expression of separation, an expression of individuality (a private mind with private thoughts). Those attempts are special love relationships. They appear to bolster worth and value and to validate personhood. And they give you a false witness for clinging to the ego as identity. To the ego, past associations serve to give personhood some sense of stability and consistency and value. Yet, the Holy Spirit demonstrates past associations offer nothing of value, for they certainly were made by the ego to deny the reality of God's Love.
Holy relationship emphasizes and reflects Content (right-minded thinking) and has an awareness of the meaninglessness of form. As the ego's believed relationships will appear to be specific, yet each one of these will present a way to release the belief in specifics. Divine Mind is Abstract and Universal. Forgiveness may be the bridge to the remembrance of Christ and God, Divine Abstraction. Thus the Holy Spirit teaches in A Course in Miracles:
"When you meet anyone, remember it is just a holy encounter. As you see him you will see yourself. As you treat him you will treat yourself. As you consider him you will consider yourself. Always remember this, for in him you will discover yourself or lose yourself. Whenever two Sons of God meet, they're given another chance at salvation. Don't leave anyone without giving salvation to him and receiving it yourself. For I'm always there with you, in remembrance of you.
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