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We are what we think, and our lives are made up of manifested live koora thoughts. We have been manifesting thoughts into reality since we were born. Remember when you were young and you wanted something really badly, you thought about it constantly. You thought of every conceivable way to make it happen and focused on it like a laser. A good portion of the time it came true in one form or another, right?
This level of single minded concentration and focus is hard to maintain once we get out into the world and get bombarded by life's hardships and daily stresses. Our minds tend to get more cluttered the more stressors we have to deal with. The more we can keep our mind concentrated and focused on what we need to do to create a situation where our ex wants to come back, the quicker it will happen. Getting your ex back is not about becoming something or someone you are not, it's about clearing your mind and cultivating your ex's desire to come back.
Get into your ex's head by getting out of their face. As counter intuitive as it may sound, you must make yourself scarce. After a breakup you need to give yourself time to clear your mind and regain your focus as well as allow your ex time to start missing you and forgetting why they were mad at you.
During the time you are not contacting your ex, work on your own personal successes and mental focus. Whatever is important in your life, work on it. Practice guitar, meditate, start working out, start a business, or whatever you can do to focus your mind on something other than your ex. Once you have regained your focus, you can start to work on getting your ex back. Being confident in your own personal successes will give you a huge advantage when meeting your ex again for the first time after your absence.
This type of approach to getting your ex back is not easy emotionally. Every fiber of your being may be telling you this is wrong but in fact it will give you a much better chance of reconciliation than begging and pleading and harassing their voice mail.
When I was young and came home with a broken heart my mom always gave me one bit of wisdom that helped me get through things. She would say, "Kora, honey, if he's that important to you, get him back. You got to make him miss you and then show him what he's missing."
These few words always struck a chord with me and were solidified in my mind when I found my mom saying those same words again to me not that long ago when my husband of live koora several years left me. I knew basically what I had to do, but I needed to work out a plan to make him want to come back. You can get your ex back, but you must try to keep your cool, keep your mind as clear as possible, and create a situation where your ex will want to come back.
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