efficacioustherapy's blog

So, you and your partner have decided to try couples therapy. There may be several reasons why you feel that this is the right choice for you two, and you might have a lot of goals that you want to reach.

 

But before you dive into the world of couples therapy, you need to keep a few things in mind. First and foremost, you need to be ready to be very patient because couples therapy doesn’t solve all of your problems right away.

 

There are numerous reasons why patience is key when you start couples therapy. If you don’t practice, you and your partner will soon become disillusioned, uncomfortable, and upset.

 

True Resolution Takes Time: Remember, longstanding problems do not pop up suddenly, and they will not be solved quickly either.

 

Many couples seek therapy with years and years of conflicts, misunderstandings, and emotional wounds that have added up over time. Dissecting these layer by layer demands a gradual therapy method to ensure that both partners feel listened to and understood.

 

Rushing through this process will probably result in shallow, superficial resolutions that fail to truly tackle the main problems, increasing the possibility of issues resurfacing in the future.

 

Learning How To Communicate: Additionally, treatment includes learning and using new methods of communication and interacting that may feel uncomfortable or unfamiliar at first. Active listening and communicating deep emotions without assigning blame are important skills that may be difficult to perfect. This, of course, takes time.

 

Replacing unhealthy habits with healthier alternatives is a long process that requires a lot of time and effort. Having high expectations for instant expertise with this can cause frustration, so it is important to have patience for yourself and your partner. The good news is that consistently practicing these new skills over time makes them second nature, improving our communication skills and strengthening your relationship.

 

Healing Takes Time: Another important part thing to remember about couples therapy is that emotional healing does not always progress in a straight line.

 

People may experience big steps forward in one week only to feel like they are regressing right after. One step forward, two steps back - this is something that many people in couples therapy feel.

 

This may be discouraging, but it is a regular part of the process. Healing may require confronting difficult memories and feelings, leading to a temporary increase in conflict or bad feelings. Having patience lets couples remain dedicated to the journey, recognizing that challenges are a natural part of the path to long-term progress.

 

Couples therapy needs both partners to be vulnerable and open at all times, which can feel intimidating. But establishing true trust and safety requires a long amount of time. Having patience is vital when it comes to allowing both partners to feel comfortable enough to share at their own speed without feeling rushed.